If you and your significant other are in a serious relationship, then arguments, disappointing surprises, and small differences are no stranger. There are many ways to handle relationship problems, the key being proactive and constructive communication and action. Building a stronger relationship with your significant other requires more than just talking and spending time together. Many times, couples fall into the dreaded routine of a relationship and don't even realize it. Here are some simple steps on how to keep your relationship going in the right direction.
1. Show affection daily. Women, as well as men, like to know that they are loved so touching, hugging, kissing and showing affection in areas other than the bedroom can translate into a deeper sense of intimacy. A hug in the kitchen, a random love note or random I love you call, those special smiles that say I'm glad your mine, and moments of laughter can bring back the affection and intimacy.
2. Think of others. A natural result of routine is taking your significant other for granted. Just because you have spend several years together does not mean your significant other is there to tend to you at every moments notice. Be considerate, sharing the cleaning time, and spend time together on the days that count.
3. Say thank you like you mean it. Never take your significant other for granted. So show them and tell them how much you appreciate the little things they can do, regardless of if its for your benefit or not. The bed is made every morning before your get out of the shower, there are flowers on random days, and a simple 'you're the best'.
4. Encourage them. We are humans and everything we do does not revolve around the relationship. Encourage your significant other's interests and hobbies and let them know that its part of why your attracted to them. Waking up in the morning to do yoga together, packing sandwiches for a fishing trip, and going to art galleries together shows them that you appreciate them for who they are, and not what they can do for you.
5. Stay attractive. Many relationships go through the comfort phase where they begin to work out less, groom less, and get a little too comfortable. Relationships require work and cant' fly on autopilot. Likewise, being comfortable with and trusting someone does not mean to let yourself go since you're off the market. Occasional farts are OK for both parties, but please keep it to a minimum.
6. Share. But share within the relationship. Don't share the intimate details of every fight or romantic event with friends. But do share the daily household chores. Do share relaxation time. And men please, it takes two people to raise kids. Do share the child rearing responsibilities. Basically, be smart. A relationship is between two people - what you share defines what your relationship is.
7. Be naughty! I don't know about you but the same thing after so many year can be...well, boring. Holding hands for long walks, taking baths together, massaging each other, and some extra props are a great way to spice up the night. A good idea for those who are too shy to role play: a night at a hotel can instantly sexy-up the atmosphere. Make sure to tell the kids they're staying at their aunt's though.
8. Communicate. Communicate in ways other than yelling, screaming, negative put downs, and any threat with the word divorce. Be proactive in your relationship and talk about the areas you need to work on, and the areas that just make you scream with happiness. Communicate the good and the bad in a constructive way. And be smart. Even talking about areas that need work could lead to a good night.