Marriage tips that can help any relationship are below, however, you must know that tips are only that, you and your partner have to work to make your marriage a good one. Here are a few questions you can ask each other that can make your relationship better or point you in a more positive direction.
What are three things that drew you into your relationship? Maybe you fell in love with each other because s/he has a way with words - 'you are so much fun to be with' or 'you have the most beautiful smile, it lights up the room when you enter.
Maybe it was because you exude a powerful image - you have a plan, you know where you want to go and how you're going to get there. You are self-assured.
A few things that can be of a lot of help:
- Attend to your spouse's needs
- Find a balance between work and leisure time
- You don't always have to put your kids first
- You aren't competing so don't keep score
- Understand what each of you really want out of your marriage
Both of you might make a list of three to five things you want to accomplish in the next six months; the next six years - vacations you'd like to take or a personal aspiration - you need to complete your master's degree program. Take some time to discuss your goals and map out a plan that will help each of you realize your dreams. Review your lists often to see that you are both still on track.
If you didn't know before, here are a few questions that give a lot of insight and are fun to know:
- "What do you think is the secret to having a good life?"
- "What do you think is good about our marriage?"
- "What do you value most in life?"
Questions help you focus on each other and expose ways of appreciating and improving your marriage.
To help a good relationship become 'great,' you should be working together - a one person "fix-it program" won't work, it's just not enough. Sit down and sort out your dreams and goals; work out enjoyable experiences that will strengthen what goes on between you.
Above all, remember, you were looking for love because you want to be loved; you like attention coming our way, and to be deemed desirable a lot of affection will and usually does assure that you are. Be understanding to be understood and appreciate each other, always.